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"Loving the Child of Me" © 2003 ~ crayon drawing by Carol E. Fairbanks |
"Everyone is born creative; everyone is given a box of crayons in kindergarten. Then when you hit puberty, they take the crayons away and replace them with dry, uninspiring books on algebra, history, etc. Being suddenly hit years later with the 'creative bug' is just a wee voice telling you, 'I'd like my crayons back, please."
~ Hugh Mac-Leod, car-too-nist,
whose mission is to change the world of art in the world of business in a meaningful way.
Reclaiming my Crayons
When I was a young girl about 8 or 9 years old, all I wanted to be was an artist. To look the part, I wore my mom's old red 40's-style hat, that looked like a beret and created an artist smock from one of Dad's old white shirts. For that Christmas, I had gotten an art easel and plenty of crayons and other scrumptious tools of color, so I was set. I can't remember a single thing I drew or painted during that time I explored being an "artist", but I do remember the fun I had. It was magical to go to my easel each day and experience the joy of creating something new. It was a time when I did not let my beliefs of how things "should be" get in the way of my wild imagination. I did not care about anything but the vibrant, beautiful colors that flowed from my brush onto my paper.
In a magazine, I saw an ad that invited any interested person to draw the profile of a woman and send it in for a chance to "win" free art instruction. Thinking that maybe I should learn something more and be "better" at art than I was, I got busy drawing. I sent in my completed drawing, feeling sure I would "win", but I received back instead a packet, advertising a course in drawing guaranteed to make me a better "artist". Of course, Mom and Dad refused to pay for the drawing course and begging on my part didn't budge them a bit. Sadly, I felt I lost an opportunity to become a real "artist" and the seed of "not being good enough" was planted.
Around Christmas time the following year, in our school, there was a contest to draw and color the perfect Santa Claus. Again I got busy, putting all my artistic skills into creating the best Santa that I could. As I looked at my finished drawing of Santa, smiling back at me, I was sure I would "win" that prize and finally be recognized as a real "artist". Another older student "won" that contest, and even Mom's encouraging words did not console me. I looked at my "Santa", and suddenly he did not look so good any more.
I am not sure exactly when I stopped being an "artist", but when I was 12 years old, I decided that being a scientist might be more fun. I put my "crayons" in away in a drawer, with other discarded junk that I no longer played with, and created a science laboratory in the basement. With test tubes and beakers, purchased from the local drug store, along with many benign powders and liquids, I was ready to start exploring the world of science. So my white "artist" smock became the lab coat of a "scientist". Happily, I saw no "contests" looming around this venture that might intrude on my dream of being a laboratory "scientist".
While I don't believe it was" better" for me to play at art, rather than doing science experiments, I do feel I abandoned a connection with that playful, imaginative inner child. When I received admonishment on my report card for too much daydreaming, my Mom told me it was not good to waste time entertaining my imagination, when there was more important "real" work to be done. And so the "crayons" stayed safely in the darkness of the drawer.
I don't remember doing much art in high school or even college. I had learned that art was for those on the outskirts of society, and it mostly attracted those "rebels" who did not seem to fit in the "real" world. When I was a sophomore in college, I signed up for a drawing class. I was not sure what my motivation was taking that class, in the midst of all my science and math classes. As I walked into the first class, the professor introduced the model, who would be posing nude, and I bolted and ran out of class and dropped my drawing class immediately. I was not only was alienated from my creative imagination, but also I seemed to have incorporated a fear and lack of understanding of art making.
But life has a way of gently (and sometimes, not so gently) bringing you back to your passion and your neglected playful child. The pain and trauma in my life have stripped away my defenses and shouted louder than my fears, opening the way back to the fun and creative play of my inner child. With each life challenge of divorce, separation from my children, illness, and job loss, I took back my crayons. I have survived many life challenges with the support of my coloring, painting. collaging, and drawing. Through my art making, I have been able to let go of my sadness and, by seeing the "bigger picture", have moved on to thriving. Along with the fun and joy of experiencing my imagination and creativity, I have reconnected to my imaginative inner child....to that place of unconditional self love and self nurturance.
So presently, my easel has been replaced by an entire art room, and the crayons are permanently "out of the drawer" and into my hands. Yes, I have even taken classes where I have fearlessly drawn nudes in positions that would make most people blush! Fearless and imaginative......that's the essence and path of the creative Wild Woman Walker!